Never Calling First
Are you always the first to call, text, or email, whether it’s just to say hi or to make plans to hang out? Unless this person is extremely shy, if he rarely or never makes the first move, it’s highly likely he considers you just a friend. He may like you, but he’s not going out of his way to keep in touch.
Always Hanging Out In A Group
Maybe she is just shy or taking things slowly, but if someone is interested in you, she’ll generally do all she can to spend one-on-one time with you. If she hasn’t suggested spending alone time with you, she likely doesn’t think of you as more than a friend.
Not Touching You
While some people are naturally “touchy-feely” with everyone, in general, someone who is interested in you is more likely to try to get close to you and make some sort of body contact. If he never touches you, pulls away when you touch him, doesn’t touch you in return, or has closed-off body language, he probably doesn’t like you in that way.
Have you two had any deep and meaningful conversations recently? You know, more than just chatting about the big game or what you watched on TV last night. Sharing heart-to-heart conversations about key events in your life, what’s most important to you, and your plans for the future could be a sign that he or she wants to get to know you better and possibly take your relationship further. Likewise, an absence of such conversation might well be a clue that you’ve been relegated to the friend zone.
Someone who likes you as more than a friend is not going to miss an opportunity to be with you. He’ll leap at any chance to spend time in your presence. So, if he frequently has an excuse about why he won’t be able to make it, or if he often cancels or doesn’t show up, chances are you’re not a major priority.
Talking About Other People He/She Likes
It’s a pretty big clue that you’re deeply entrenched in the friend zone if the object of your affection mentions other cute guys she’d like to date. On the other hand, if she tells you about how other people she’s dated were such jerks (unlike you!), the outlook may be brighter.
Trying To Hook You Up With Their Friends
If your desired one starts to play cupid and not so subtly tries to set you up with one of her friends, you can pretty much give up on ever getting out of the friend zone. You’re such a good friend that she wants you to be happy — with someone else.
Lack of Eye Contact
While gazing into one another’s eyes is one of the key signs of a blossoming relationship, lack of serious eye contact may indicate the opposite. Test it out — does he hold your gaze or avoid it?
Not Making an Effort in Appearance
A key indicator that your special someone has lumped you into her friend zone is if she doesn’t try to look her best for you. If she’s in her PMS sweatpants sans makeup more often than not when you’re together, she’s clearly not trying to impress you. It may be time to move on.
Referring to You as Just a Friend
Does he constantly refer to you as “just a friend,” or even worse, as like a sister to him? If so, things are not looking good. He’s making it pretty clear that you are well within the friend zone, and you’ll just have to make the best of it. Put your chin up, and move on. There’s plenty more fish in the sea, and the right person for you will come along before you know it!